Hubs and I took Red out to ride his tricycle a few weeks ago… It was given to him last Christmas by his Nana and Pop, but instead of riding it, only wanted to sit on it or push it around the yard. And trying to show him how to push the pedal was torturous for us both, so I never pushed the issue. Last May, when Red and I went for his 3 year checkup, they gave us a “milestones” checklist to fill out, just like all the years before. The last question? “Can your child place his feet on the pedals of a tricycle and pedal X number of yards?” Nope. He couldn’t. I panicked on the inside a little bit, wondering if this was a sign of motor delay, or was it just on the questionnaire to grade athletic acceleration? Who knows. Either way, it bugged me a little bit.
So, when Red finally showed interest this one late summer evening, I was like, “YEAH! We’re DOING this!” Except I was the only one treating the situation like that. I ran in for my good camera, set the dials and stressfully waited for the perfect shot setup. I teetered and danced around my husband as he patiently guided our son, helped him steer, and urged him to “kick and walk” the pedals. He was so patient with Red learning what to do. All I wanted Red to do was freaking push 5 pedals in a row so I could catch it on tape.
I know what you’re thinking. After we were all done, I figured it out, too. But in the meantime, all I could see was a slightly messy, but cutely dressed boy, a picture perfect bike, a shady summer day with a freaking rainbow in the sky. I was pulling my hair out that Hubs was in the shot (in his sweats… I apparently forgot to tell him that my brain decided it was an impromptu photo shoot), that Red wasn’t constantly smiling at the camera, that the bike was leading him into the ditch, that it wasn’t like one of those freaking Hallmark commercials.
I was worrying about the wrong thing.
When I was finally able to step back from the situation and delete the 9 million awful, blurry and “compromised” photos on the sidewalk, I realized that what I had was a perfectly awesome situation I almost wasn’t a part of. I put down my camera and spent the rest of the evening with my boys actually learning to ride the tricycle.
It’s not about the photos. It’s about looking at what I have, and knowing how awesome it is to be a part of it. And being in the moment; It’s so important to be there.
After everything had passed, I ended up making a very short video out of the pieces of footage and the rest of the photos. You can totally see my journey in footage to my realization of thankfulness.