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Now that Red’s asserting his independence more (read: learning how to say NO), I’ve been very conscious of how to improve and start the basis for his manners. You have to start somewhere. You can’t start at holding doors, or using polite phrasing. But using “nice” words will help. I’ve been reading a lot on the subject, and have determined that a gentle touch (physically) will translate into personal space and a gentle treatment of others.
We pet Dooley (“Doooo-lay”) very gently with an open hand and say “no thank you” when Red tries to pull his ears or his nub-tail. He’s been doing very well with the newest member of the family, our new kitty (post coming later). He reached out with one finger to be sniffed and pets gingerly. He also speaks to kitty with a soft voice (Owwwww!). I’ve reminded our house to cut out the bad language and to say “excuse me” after all burps, and thank you after receiving something. “More please” is what I say to Red when he’s asking for more drink, etc.
I know it’s a long road to actually hearing one of these phrases back, but practice makes perfect – especially when he enters the parrot stage of talking.
How did you start good manners training? What was more effective for you, or what do you hope to do?
I’m trying to do similar things! When I ask Eli a question, he nods yes up and down and I say yes, ma’am. When he is nodding to me. 🙂 I’m with you, start it early!
My daughter just turned 3 and she has way better manners than my sons who are 7 1/2 and 9. I really haven’t had to teach her manners…she just mimics me and my husband. She always says “please”, “thank you”, “excuse me”, and “God bless you”.