I am honored to be continuing my sponsored relationship with Similac in order to foster parental support and help to #endmommywars. All thoughts and opinions are my own.
It’s really hard to understand what it’s like to parent a child before you actually become a parent. I remember what it was like in college, grad school, and even as a young professional to see a mom (or dad) making a parenting choice that I didn’t agree with. Fortunately, I never had the urge to speak on it, but silently thought about it in my head. Being that I’m the world’s WORST liar, I most likely made a face or two and didn’t realize it (which may or may not have been just as bad as speaking out!).
Now that I’m a parent of two, I’m noticing more and more advice coming my way; the most recent rounds are from complete strangers who don’t even have children! Now, I’m not saying that one person or another doesn’t know what they are talking about, but there is a distinct difference in having been through something and only having read about it. That’s why I find it so frustrating when people who have never been caretakers tell me “Oh, don’t do that to your child, they will X instead of Y or Z!” It happened to me just last week!!!
But, having been through this rodeo at least once before, I have a tendency to know what works for my parenting style. If I’m going to give my baby a pacifier, use a blankie, bottle or breastfeed, baby-wear or even let them pick out their own outfit for the day, I don’t think it’s any of a stranger’s beeswax. If she/he isn’t in danger, we’re doing what works for us.
So what do I do now when I hear a comment like this? I give a small smile, quickly collect myself, and give a reason why it’s working for me. I don’t attack, I don’t stalk away, I politely say, “Thank you, but this is working for us, so I’m carrying on.”
It’s taken a lot for me to stand up for myself. I used to just cave and change what I was doing in the moment. To appease whomever was commenting in a weak effort to “fit in” to the parenting world. I felt bullied, even though I was the one caving. No more! 🙂 I’m confident in my parenting style, and though I may meet my challenges with each milestone, I’m taking it one day at a time.
So how about you? What unwanted parenting advice have you gotten lately? Was it from a fellow parent or someone who doesn’t yet have (or want) children? Continue the conversation with other parents and Similac to help #EndMommyWars.
Catch up with Similac on Facebook and YouTube or hit up the SoM page for more support for Parents. We’re all in this together! I am incredibly proud to be a Partner of the Sisterhood of Motherhood with Similac, and they generously sponsored my discussion starter. The Sisterhood of Motherhood believes it’s time to embrace parents who choose to embrace parenthood, because no two of us are the same, and we’re all in this together. We need to nourish each other the same way we nourish our kids. The Sisterhood (all of us!) is there to help you get through the first few days and months of motherhood with confidence — and zero judgment. And I firmly believe that’s way it should be.